Well, pink is in the air. Valentine’s Day is tomorrow.
I’ve always been kind of meh about Valentines Day. If it’s your jam, I’m not knocking you for one second, I just never really got into the whole thing, even though I’ve had several serious relationships in my lifetime… But I always believed that if you love someone, show them every single day rather than just once per year, and that I by no means need an excessive gift to prove that you actually care.
Commercialism is stupid, and I agree whole heartedly with that. Greeting card and chocolate companies all over the country are seriously banking off of this silly little holiday.. But, as I’ve gotten older I’ve also realized something else. Silly can be fun, and there are never enough excuses to celebrate love. Valentine’s Day is fun, and it always has been, ever since we were forced to make Valentine’s Day mailboxes in second grade. If you’re in a long-term relationship, I don’t see any harm in putting on an actual dress or tie to go out to a nice dinner. Charlie and I do really well as far as date nights go. We go out together all the time, and at least once per month splurge on a nice dinner out for ourselves. We work hard, long hours. We deserve to sit back now and then and just celebrate us, Valentines Day is just that. A day to embrace your relationship. Yes, you probably do this other times of the year (if not maybe you should just entirely re-evaluate your relationship.. Not the holiday) but why NOT do it again February 14th? Why NOT?
You don’t have to buy your significant other jewelry, or even flowers. You don’t have to make a reservation at a 5 star restaurant and spend your income from the last month. It doesn’t have to be this extremely big thing. Why not just make it fun again, like it was in grade school? That’s what Charlie and I have sort of done, accidentally. I’ll be at the corner store and see a heart shaped box of chocolates for $2, notice its a candy he really likes and pick it up. He saw Breaking Bad valentines and snagged me a box. Little, stupid, dorky things like this are fun and show that you’re thinking about one another.
We both close at work on Friday, so we picked up a bottle of wine to split after. We’re also going to go out on Sunday night since we are working on the actual holiday. You don’t HAVE to do this, though.
Life is about the small details, not the big giant grande gestures… I think that’s where we went wrong with this holiday. Expectations can kill literally anything. Maybe if we stop thinking of it as this big stressful occasion, where anything short of a dozen long stem red roses or a diamond ring means they don’t love you, and instead make it personal and fun we can embrace the day for what it is; another excuse to celebrate love. & really…. are there ever too many days to show your significant other how grateful you are for them?
There’s precious little love in the world left, and I for one am all for cherishing the love that exists. If you’re single, celebrate self-love and appreciation. In fact, take care of you and treat yourself with love, honor, and respect — single or coupled. ‘I’ve come to realize that Love is our God(dess)-given right. We are born in a state of Love and we will leave in a state of Love.’ It’s pleasant to be surrounded by heart-shaped reminders to tell each other we love one another — romantically or not, that we are important in each other’s lives. If you can stock up on cheesy cards and hearts with sayings on them, giving them out to friends and family because, hey, they are actually deserving of your affection as well — it’s actually a rather pleasant day.
“To love is to be vulnerable.”